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In today’s world of materialistic needs and aspirations, the word `acceptance` may seem to you as something, unrealistic. You may think that accepting where you`re or who you`re is nothing, but presenting yourself before the world only as someone who doesn`t have any option to grow up or to set any higher ambition, except accepting whoever he/ she is. In this world of so called success and objectified perceptions where all the time we`re getting compared by an invisible, parametrical success meter, it`s getting impossible for us, day by day to distinguish between what we truly want and what we truly need. We are even unable to differentiate between the real and the unreal. All the time, our expectations tempt us to search for something better that sometimes doesn`t fit into our world of reality. But most of the time, in this course of searching, we not only disrespect our strengths, within but also frustrate ourselves, once again and lure ourselves to fall under the trap of numerous illusions and disillusionments. And in this course of searching something better, quite unknowingly of ourselves we start to decide our goals, set up our yardsticks and allow our mind to seek some external appreciations according to that so called parametrical success meter. And quite unconsciously, present ourselves in front of a mirror that is actually hold up before us by some external viewers. And this is the biggest mistake that we do every now and then and become the victims of instant comparisons and sometimes of some depthless gratifications. And quite automatically, start to believe that actually we don`t have any real worth, within. Rather, we`re nothing, but some simple human machines to compare ourselves with others according to that so called success meter, expecting something bigger that has no value in the real core of our existence.
Here, in this blog, I would like to remind you that you`re not a simple human being, but has some eternal power, within. And here in lies the biggest role of acceptance to bring that strength back into your entity in order to ground your being with your true self, without any expectations, without any grievances. And the moment you start to accept whoever you`re, quite automatically your ego sheds off and you start to feel that you`re introducing yourself before the deeper part of your psyche who is eternal and beyond any form of tangible perceptions. And quite automatically, you may start to realize that you`re not a single entity, but a spiritual being with a divine truth, within. But this is possible, only when you`ll be able to perceive your true entity and can accept yourself with the openness of your heart and the serenity of your soul. I know, that`s not an easy task to accomplish. But I must assure you that it`s also not an impossible one if you still have that urge to know yourself, your true identity and have that strength to feel the eternal bliss that you already have, within. As non- acceptance only makes you to grieve over something that really doesn`t exist or belong to you in this real world of your existence. But most of the time, we fail to understand this simple truth of life and tend to misinterpret the ideal core of reality, itself and allow ourselves, once again to lull into the worldly pleasures of senses and material needs, entirely forgetting the fact what our soul needs to have to heal herself!
Acceptance doesn`t mean to lose your faith altogether and accepting everything that is going on only with a passive understanding. Rather, acceptance means to trust the process and allow your soul to believe on the divine guidance and transcend your consciousness to that level from where life may not seem to you as only a fruitless survival, rather something to feel the eternal grace, the bliss, within.
Accepting who you`re is becoming aware of your strengths and weaknesses:
Do you know where in lies the root cause of our suffering? It`s all because of our ignorance, I feel. Most of the time, we`re ignorant of the fact of who we truly are. Our desires and wishes always lead us towards a state of dilemma and confusion where most of the time we fail to relate with ourselves, with that truth we already have, within and consequently fail to relate with the world outside. We search from one place to another, sometimes hoping for something better, sometimes even depriving our self- respect, but never feel satisfied enough, never find that peace of mind, we`re seeking for. The more, we indulge into that pursuit, the more we find that we`re trapping ourselves once again in a never ending, labyrinthine dark dungeon. And every time we fail to connect with that inner truth that we`ve within, since the primordial time of our existence. Even we fail to perceive that we`re already complete enough and we need not to search that completeness around any external corner, rather what we need to do is only to realize our individual identity and accept ourselves with all our grace, with all our faults along with our tears and laughter, along with our uniqueness and shortcomings.
Here in this section, I would like to tell you that having ambitions and pursuing for that, is not wrong if you`re pursuing for what you`re destined to be. But if you`re running after something that doesn`t fit with your real self, then I think, it may become a little problematic for you to trust the process. And here once again, comes the dilemma and confusion. At that very moment your desires may tempt you to follow that path of external appreciations, completely keeping you unknown of the fact that your soul needs to have some other options, some other ways to flourish herself. And here, once again we lose ourselves and quite automatically are proved to be an ordinary slave of our never ending expectations, completely ignoring the reality that we`re already complete within ourselves, with all our graceful and darker shades of existence. And that`s why we don`t have any need to search for any other place. Indeed, we`re already into that place, already with whatever our soul needs to have to rejuvenate and flourish herself! But most of the time, we forget this simple truth and push ourselves towards that region to be compared according to that so called parametrical success meter. While, actually success doesn`t come to those who always deny to accept themselves. As the more we deny to accept ourselves, the more we get alienated from our real self, causing only frustrations and allowing ourselves to fall under the trap of dissatisfactions and that related existential crisis. And as a result of that, quite unconsciously we get overwhelmed and present ourselves before the world as some creatures who only know how to imitate others and frustrate themselves by some tools of external imitations and comparisons.
In order to interpret it in a simpler way, I would like to remind you that we all are individually unique. We cannot be comparable with each other. And accepting who we`re actually helps us to understand that unique individuality. Moreover through this acceptance, I feel, you may get an alternative insight to explore your shortcomings. But never feel disheartened, rather accept those flaws with an open heart. Accept those as something very much of yours, rather than being depressed. Try to find some alternative ways to feel your presence. Do not live others life, lamenting over what you don`t have, rather try to appreciate what you still have and work on that. And here in lies the grace of being accepted by yourself. I think, it may not bring before you that so called success that mostly we seek, but can make us understand who you truly are, can bring a solace, within and may help you to perceive the real truth of your existence. And the moment, you get realized about the simple truth of your life, the moment you`ll start to feel where in lies the real success. You may start to explore the eternal rhythm of your life itself and then all the complexes, involvements and expectations quite automatically will start to fade away. And you yourself will become aware of the fact that you`re getting introduced with a different reality where getting disillusioned and disheartened by the external world is not only unwelcomed, but also considered to be as one of the barriers in recognizing yourself, your inner worth. Your real self may not favorable for all, but if you have that faith on yourself, you`ll come to know where in lies the magic of acceptance. You`ll get to know whatever be the circumstances, you need to accept the process and the divine guidance that is continually guiding this entire creation along with your existence. Then you need not to be worried at all what others feel about you. If you yourself know your strengths and weaknesses, your inner worth and truth inside your entity, quite automatically you will start to feel the power of your soul and perceive where she prefers you to lead. And trust me, this entire process is quite magical. And this magic starts to happen, the moment you start to explore yourself and get aligned with that truth, you`ve within, since the primordial time of your existence.
I feel acceptance does nothing, but motivates you to live in your present moment, letting you to breathe freely in a spontaneous way and helping you to grow, within in order to welcome a newer dawn that`ll accept your identity, the way you`re. The more you accept who you`re, the more you`ll get aligned not only to the truth that you`ve within but also with the universal truth of life itself that never permits you to see yourself as a timid one, craving for something, you`re not destined for. Rather, it always loves to guide you to an alternative way of finding your center. There you need not to be ashamed, need not to think of others appreciations, but can feel that you also have a special purpose on this planet and you`re only a spiritual being (predestined I mean to say) in a human form, nothing more, nothing less than that! And this awareness quite surprisingly helps you to understand that your presence is eternal, beyond any external appreciations, beyond any external judgments, beyond anything that makes you feel you`re not that much good enough. And coming at this point of realization, you`ll be able to perceive where in lies the true meaning of your life. You`ll be able to know that comparisons and non- acceptance can only lead you towards a stage of unfulfilled ambitions, while acceptance helps you to feel the serenity, within even if you`ve not achieved that so called success in your life. As life is not about achievements and bigger ambitions, rather it`s all about to sit for a while, allow your heart to listen to the soft mumblings of your soul and transcend your consciousness to that level where expectations don`t have any room, rather acceptance brings before you that special mirror to hold the beauty that you already have, within.
Acceptance always leads you towards a state of self- reflection:
Though on an apparent level of understanding you may feel that acceptance does nothing, but simply helps you to go with the flow in a passive way. But here at this juncture, I would like to remind you that acceptance is not that state of being passive at times, rather it has an infinite potential to transcend your consciousness into a different state of realization. And then you may get to realize that the part of you which is running after those external satisfactions is not the real you, rather a false, an illusory part of your shadow self who is not allowing you to see the real beauty of yourself that you`ve, within. And under its hypnotic spell you can do nothing, but can only run after something that actually doesn`t have any reality in the core of your existence. And as a result of that the more you get involved with those external things, the more resentful and bitter you start to be, completely negating the rhythm of nature, the rhythm of life itself. Quite unknowingly of yourself you start to block that path of your inner realization. And the more you start to indulge into those external things, ignoring the real core of your existence, the more you`re negating the rhythm of universal creative intelligence. While the reality is not those external things, you`re running after, rather the reality you`ve, within. And in order to explore that reality, that truth, within, I feel you need to accept yourself and have to surrender to the divine intelligence that is governing the entire universe without any pause, without any complaints.
A genuine acceptance of your heart has a magical power to bring an awareness within yourself. And the moment you become aware of who you`re, trust me that is the moment when your entity gets connected to the divine intelligence. As you`re not separated from that. And now at this very moment, you get aligned with your inner purpose that is essential to communicate with yourself and with the world outside in order to lead your life and take responsibility in a more relevant and practical way of understanding. In order to explicate it in a simpler way, I would like to share with you an extraordinary experience that happened to a lady who was utterly on the verge of depression and even decided to leave this world forever. But something magical happened with her that completely changed her way of thought and quite surprisingly inspired her to lead her life more in a blissful way not according to the whims of others who ever tried to change her altogether, rather according to the spontaneous rhythm of her soul who knows how to heal, how to grow, within. I feel her own words would certainly fill your heart with awe and inspiration and help you to perceive what wonder this acceptance can create in one`s entity;
“ It were those days when there was nothing left to lose for me, except that unfortunate life, I was bearing, except those sorrows I was brooding over…life seemed to me as a mockery of my own… my fragile self used to sneer at me, every night. I used to crawl every day…crawled with my inabilities, crawled with those unfulfilled ambitions that used to pop up into my head, every night and day… starkly I felt that I had been drowning into a dark dungeon of uncertainties, finding no one to help me out…I was totally unable to accept my helplessness… The reality, the unfortunate incident that happened with me always seemed to me as some mockery, a trick that life played to me! All the time, I used to feel that nothing more worse could happen when someone lose her entire possessions, her social reputation and everything that makes one stable and confident enough to sustain in this tough world of existence where everyone prefers to judge you according to your external coating. However glossy and sparkling it may be, whether it fits with your real self or not but people love to notice that external shell that we usually bound to put on ourselves. But unfortunately that superficially, glossy external shell was not available for me right at that moment when life played that trick on me…
But years later, I got realized that my suffering was not for that loss, rather for my non- acceptance that continually had been stressing me out and distracting me from my ideal purpose…In those days I used to gaze at the sky, at those twinkling stars…I didn`t know why, but somehow I started to feel the stillness of those nights, within…I started to feel that my entire entity had been gradually aligned to that nocturnal beauty… and a surrender was needed, I deeply felt… a surrender to the divine intelligence and accepting everything that happened to me in those past few years… And trust me, dear the moment I started to accept myself, quite surprisingly, I started to feel some different meaning of my existence, I started to be aware of some blissful energy, surrounding not only my entity, but also the entire universe… that I had been ignoring when I used to complain of my circumstances… That was a different realization, something that can`t be expressed in words but can only be felt, within…and somehow, I started to feel that I need not to brood over those past sorrows or indulge my ego all the time to gain some external appreciations and allow those external whims and tricks to control me, rather what I need to do is only to surrender, surrender to that nocturnal beauty, surrender to the stillness of those nights, surrender to that absolute silence and moreover to that divine intelligence, responsible for the entire creation and my existence as well…and at that very moment, that nocturnal beauty somehow, I felt appeared before me as a mirror itself to hold the beauty I`ve, within, since the primordial time of my existence…and I started to feel that it was not only a simple mirror, but has a magical healing power in itself…to heal all the wounds and to help me to feel, once again the eternal grace that I’ve within…it was really a different realization that on a very first place, startled me at once, but gradually helped me a lot to perceive the inner beauty, the inner purpose, I`m destined for…and an eternal truth I perceived that night; the truth is not of gaining something external, rather the truth is understanding myself, becoming compassionate to my failures and embracing my success with a truthful openness of my heart…as acceptance I feel has only that power to make you believe that you`re not a single entity, rather an entity, aligned to the entire universe… so we need not to complain, need not to remorse over the pasts, but what we need to do is only to accept, to love ourselves, with whatever faults or grace we`ve…”
You may think, what exactly made that lady to change her perspective altogether. At this juncture, I would like to remind you that actually nothing happened in a tangible realm. But the real magic happened within herself. The moment she starts to accept whoever she is, quite surprisingly her unconscious started to respond in a constructive way, allowing her consciousness to open up a new vista to know herself and quite automatically she got realized where in lies her soul`s purpose itself. And it all happened the moment she started to accept herself, with all her grace and follies, with all her success and misfortunes. As by that time, she got realized where she may have that inner peace; where she once again may feel that she`s all alive with her grace, with her presence!
Here in lies the true worth of accepting yourself, the true purpose of surrendering your entity completely to the divine intelligence, not only to know yourself, but to explore the inner enigma that still throbs within you, to feel that unexplored purity we all have, within but always tends to avoid in the pursuit of seeking something, external. While the actual reality of life lies in the total acceptance of who you`re, allowing your consciousness to perceive that truth, within.
Accepting who you`re is healing yourself and strengthening the phoenix you`ve, within:
Do you ever know the actual cause of your suffering and the lack that you feel most of the time, even when you`ve gained everything and relishing your tangible success, being at the top of your so called success meter? I feel, the lack that you`re feeling every now and then is not coming from your external self, rather it`s coming from the inner core of your psyche that somehow got alienated from the truth inside. This is not the suffering of the conscious layer of your external self, but the suffering of your soul that needs to be healed. Every moment you`re trying to present yourself before the world as someone who is not aligned with your true self. And rigorously you`re trying to play the role of that persona in this stage of your life, not only bringing an unacceptable climax for your own, but also sabotaging and depriving your soul to spread her wings, in her own colors and blocking that path to bring an integrity in order to sing a sweet lore of harmony. But the moment non acceptance comes into your mind, quite automatically you try to become someone else and sometimes wish to lead someone else`s life, not only depriving your psychological health, but also depriving your spiritual entity, bringing nothing, but only a lack and existential crisis in your life.
The moment you start to reject yourself, the moment you start to collapse the spontaneous flow of your soul who is very much independent in nature. How much darker the realities may seem to you, your soul always has that power to evolve in a spontaneous way, to heal those wounds and to make you feel that the crisis you`re suffering from is not any external crisis, but it actually comes from your non- acceptance of who you truly are. But on the contrary, the moment you start to recognize yourself, quite automatically you become more compassionate to yourself. You may start to feel that you`re not only recognizing yourself in a different way, rather healing yourself, speaking with your depth. And here in lies the need to understand and love yourself, the way you`re.
Few years back, quite unexpectedly I met a lady of about some fifty one years of age who once been a successful IT professional but then running a bakery shop at Gangtok by her own. Quite accidentally I stumbled across her shop and through a couple of interactions I got to know a secret of her life. And that secret is, even being at the top of her professional success, she had never been satisfied, within. All the time a sense of lack harbors around her. Do you want to know what was that lack all about? I would like to share that in her own confession; “It was a prison for me, a pleasurable one, but sometimes it seemed to me as somewhat, claustrophobic; and my only option I felt to act on a character that was absolutely contrary to myself…but every moment I urged to be that character, just to be presentable and honorable by all. I achieved everything in my life, name, fame and the success but except peace! The more I got involved myself into those external appreciations, the more I started to feel that I was not only denying my self-worth, rather entering into a dark dungeon from where escape is possible, only when I accept myself the way I’m, leaving behind the life of servitude, the life of expectations from the world, outside. And this realization didn`t come into me as an overnight project… I contemplated over it, perceived the depth, within and took up decision to emerge before the world, the way my soul wishes for me to be; peaceful, satisfied and grounded with the truth, the reality, I`ve, within…some of you may sneer at me! May feel how stupid I was to quit that job of gaining dollars in order to become only a simple bakery shop owner…but trust me dear, here I got that peace, that satisfaction and that integrity that never I found in that high profiled job…I`m not criticizing them… they`re themselves…but I also needed to be myself…I also needed to accept, the way I`m…”
I think, this is an excellent example of accepting the truth, you`ve within, negating all the fears of what would happen if the world will not accept you! If you accept yourself, the way you`re, there is no need for any external approvals. As herein lies the truth of your existence; the truth of your being, the true emergence of your soul. Though the above experience holds true for that lady. And I`m not suggesting to all of you to follow her footsteps. As everyone in this world has a different experience, has a different story to tell and a different truth to handle. So let`s ask your inner self, talk with her in silence and allow your consciousness to choose the right one, very much aligning with your real self.
Trust me, the moment you start to accept yourself, quite unknowingly of yourself you`ll start to strengthen your inner phoenix that we all have, within but most of the time tend to ignore her power. Acceptance does nothing but leads your consciousness to understand yourself in a different way and find the divine light, within in order to make you feel that your existence is not temporal but it has the truth of eternity, itself. And in a divine magic, quite surprisingly we start to accept everything around us, letting ourselves free from any fear, restrictions and ignorance and only feeling within the need to surrender ourselves completely to the divine. In a simpler way to interpret, acceptance actually prepares us to confront before some life lessons that we generally tend to ignore in our day to day life. It has a marvelous magical power not only to open our heart and to explore ourselves, our individual identity, but to perceive that we`re only the predestined spiritual beings in our earthly existence. As I feel this understanding is very much relevant to heal ourselves, to gain a better insight and to emerge before the world, true to our being, making a wonderful relation with ourselves where depth speaks with the depth, negating everything external that may hinder our soul`s path to flourish herself. And I feel this genuine love and acceptance naturally heals all the wounds, we`re suffering from. And quite automatically we start to feel the presence of that eternal truth, we`ve within, since the primordial time of our existence. And gradually we recognize the ground of our being. Faith comes automatically to help us and once again, we get introduced with our creator, with our phoenix, we`ve within. May be in order to emerge before the world in a newer, creative way, in a way that may not be acceptable by all, but when it`s acceptable by the core of our being, by that inner self where all the time you return again and again then only you`ll be able to maintain a balance, within, negating the disequilibrium and aligning with your real self.
Accepting and finding the Truth, within is the ideal way to feel an eternal bliss:
I feel your denial to accept yourself is nothing, but only one of the causes of your spiritual deprivation, an alienation from your center, within and consequently facing the crisis that is continually leading you towards a state of mental disequilibrium. The moment you start to deny yourself, remember that`s the moment when you get yourself alienated from this universal source of energy. And at the same time you start to ignore your very presence, the truth you`ve, within that is not temporal but has an eternal significance with your existence.
In this connection, I would like to remind you that your thought is very much essential to lead your consciousness in a fruitful way. If you`re constantly thinking in a negative way, seeking appreciations from others and dwelling over the thoughts of discontent, despair, anxiety and non-acceptance, you may never be able to find that peace, within. You may never perceive the true meaning of your aliveness. And if you fail to do so, you`ll automatically be unable to relate with yourself and the world outside. Accepting yourself and communicating with the inner you is essential to feel the bliss of eternity, within. As accepting yourself is not only to understand who you`re, rather to perceive the truth, within, sense your presence, accepting your eternal entity as a whole and realizing your inner purpose on this earth, the purpose of your existence.
It heals your soul, making you realize that the meaninglessness you`re facing, within is not the cause of any external deprival but the cause of that alienation from your spiritual center, within. And I think, the cause of your suffering is more of this spiritual deprivation, rather than any psychological upheavals. The more you choose the path of non- acceptance, the more you choose to be deprived, both psychologically and spiritually, I feel. Acceptance can bring before you that stage of self- reflection where you may have that pure consciousness to find the light, within. It will help you to feel the discrimination between your real self and the self that you`ve as the external layer of your conscious mind, enabling you to gain that higher knowledge in order to lead your consciousness towards that state where you need not to be bothered of what others think of you, rather may feel the deeper truth of your existence; the most loving truth of humanity, itself. And that truth is of accepting who you`re and accepting the world as it is, not taking any drastic initiative to change others, rather choosing to evolve, within and to relate to the world, outside in an insightful way.
Acceptance will help you to choose that path where your inner self only knows how to speak and what to say with your depth, within. And trust me, the language your deeper self knows is not like the one your conscious self uses every now and then. It`s something higher, something to contemplate over. And here in lies its healing effect, its magical power to bring you back to your center, to your home, recognizing the ground of your being and realizing where in lies the power to feel the bliss, within. Trust me, the moment, you start to accept who you`re, quite automatically all those negative thoughts that you used to dwell on, will start to fade away and you`ll start to realize your inner experiences, start to believe that you`re an eternal entity and very much grounded and true to your being. Only then you may feel where in lies the worth of true emergence before the world and how you can feel that everlasting bliss, within.
You may also start to feel how is it possible in this tangible world to accept everything, being blissful all the time. At this juncture, I would remind you that acceptance not only frees you from your ego, allowing your consciousness to transcend beyond this realm of tangible understanding, but also opens up your heart`s space and allows your soul to evolve, once again according to her own choice. And the moment you start to realize that you`re a spiritual being, quite magically you start to feel that eternal bliss, within; the bliss of being, the bliss of your presence. And here in lies the beauty and the purity of your existence, I feel that acceptance can bring into your mind and soul where the priority will be only your blissful existence, not the boundaries or the conditions that people generally set up for you.
And here in lies the feeling of bliss like an innocent child who knows no boundaries, but only knows how to surrender and how to accept the way he/ she is. This is the purest form of bliss that you can experience, while you start to accept yourself of who you`re in a real sense. And I think, this is the ideal realization that may help you to grow, within and to bring back your confidence that you`ve lost in course of negating and comparing yourself according to some external parameters. Generally we lose our confidence whenever we fail to realize ourselves and got disconnected from the universal source of energy as well. And as a consequence lose our ground of being and once again, fall under the trap of hopelessness, instead of seeking the purest light, within. Having satisfaction and feeling the bliss, within is not only a temporal matter to understand, rather I feel, this bliss is already within yourself. But in the course of complaining your inner worth, you may have forgot that you also have that divinity, within. And this is the only way to free yourself from all such negative thoughts and enlighten your soul to that level from where life may not seem to you as only a complaining journey with some hopeless survivors, rather a blissful and soulful one to ride on!
“You need not to be frightened enough/ facing those darker hours/ when time seems to you/ like a ceasing monster/ a heartless giant to crush your power/ instead, choose to see the happy sunrise/ that never complains/ for its early rise/ choose to see those blooming flowers/ dangling their heads/ may be to make a happy bower/ but never been perplexed themselves/ never asked for any others help/ but always keep their faith alive/ and accepts their destiny/ that they`re here for a wonderful life/ accepts their destiny/ that they`re here and will be/ just to make us feel that we too/ are nothing/ but only some humans/ eternally Predestined!”
